Free 15-Minute Conversation
You've built
the life.
Don't lose
the family.
The income. The career. The respect. You've earned all of it. But something has quietly gone wrong at home. Not a fight. Not a crisis. Just a distance that keeps growing. Your family doesn't want your success. They want you. And you know it.
If you're being honest with yourself
The things
you've never
said out loud.
"I've built everything I was supposed to want. So why does it feel like this?" You're not broken. You're not ungrateful. Something has just gone quiet.
"I'm functioning. Job's fine. But I'm running on empty and it's starting to show at home." You call it stress. Your wife calls it something else. Neither of you names it.
"I don't really look forward to much anymore. I just get through the days." Not depression. Not a breakdown. Just a flatness that's been there longer than you'll admit.
"I know how to disappear into work. The problem is I always come back to the same place." The escape works for a while. But whatever's underneath doesn't go away.
"My partner is the only person who really knows me. And even she doesn't fully know what's going on." Which means the problem and the only person you'd tell about it are the same person.
"I've got no one to actually take this to. So I carry it alone." You have contacts. Colleagues. People who respect you. None of them actually know you.
"Is this it? Is this just what life is now?" That question sits in your chest every morning. You've never said it to anyone.
If three of those landed, this conversation is for you. Not because something is wrong with you. Because something has drifted. And drift, left alone, becomes distance. Distance becomes the gap that ends marriages. You don't have to get there. That's the whole point of this call.
Who this conversation is built for
This is for
a specific man.
This is not for men in acute crisis, men who have already decided to leave their marriage, or men looking for someone to tell them what they want to hear. Chris asks the hard questions. That's the point.
Already know this is you? Stop reading. Book the 15 minutes. That's the hardest step — and it costs you nothing.
Who you're talking to
Not a coach
who read about it.
A man who
lived it.
Chris
Chandler-Yates
NZ Police · Men's Coach · Podcast Host
Born in Redding, California. At 13, his parents pulled the family off conventional life and sailed the world together for five years. Adventure as a way of life. Family connection forged under real conditions.
In New Zealand, Chris became exactly the kind of man the world tells you to be. Seven years in the police force. Personal protection for the Prime Minister and high-profile international diplomats. Operating under extreme pressure was the baseline. He never showed weakness. Capable, controlled, unshakeable.
It worked. Until it didn't. He burned out hard. Developed PTSD. Stopped caring whether he lived or died, chasing risk and chaos just to feel something. He asked his wife for a divorce and walked away from his marriage, convinced he had to escape to find himself.
He took a solo trip. Stripped away the noise. And came face to face with the man he had become. He refused to let that be the end of the story. He did the hard work. Mentally, physically, emotionally. He saved his marriage. Rebuilt trust. Reignited the passion he thought was gone forever. Still together. Stronger than before.
"You don't have to lose it all to wake up. You don't have to destroy your life to find meaning. I can help you course-correct before you hit the bottom I hit."
No hidden agenda
What this
15 minutes is.
This conversation is
- 15 minutes. You talk. Chris asks the questions nobody else asks.
- A space to say what you haven't been able to say to anyone.
- The most honest conversation you've had in a long time.
- With a man who's been exactly where you are. And came back.
- Completely confidential.
This conversation is not
- Couples counselling
- Therapy or anything like it
- A sales pitch or discovery call
- For men who aren't ready to be honest
- A chance to be told what you want to hear
Chris works with the man. Not the marriage. Not her. When the man changes, everything changes. This conversation is where that starts. If you're ready for it.
Proof the work actually works
Real results.
Real men.
"I had everything. Money, status, career. But I was completely burned out. This work helped me reclaim my health, reconnect with my wife, and redefine what success actually means."
"I never realised how much I needed a group of men to challenge me. This brotherhood gave me clarity, confidence, and a sense of purpose I haven't felt in years."
Men coachedThrough burnout, relationship breakdown, and full rebuild. Not theory. Lived experience.
Job anxiety cut by more than halfIn a single 4-hour session with 19 police officers. Men trained never to show weakness.
No sense of purpose remainingCompletely eliminated. Same session. Same methodology. Same room full of men who wouldn't ask for help.
When you're
ready.
You don't have to lose it all to wake up. You don't have to destroy your marriage to find your way back. That's the whole point of this call. 15 minutes. No pitch. No pressure. Just a man who's been exactly where you are — asking the questions that actually matter.
A Real Conversation
15 minutes with Chris Chandler-Yates · Video or phone
No credit card. No commitment. Stays between us.